Dear friends,
I have never met many of you who have signed up to receive inspirations. I’m so glad you did and thank you for being interested. Today i’m particularly excited about what i’m writing. Things around the globe are changing fast and many people are coming out with bold and timely ideas.
I have a vision of a planet full of people all doing what they love most, contributing their unique genius and spending their lives following their passions and enjoying themselves. Where my vision differs is that those people didnt have to do years of painful soul searching in mid-life after dysfunctional or unfulfilled lives. instead they were raised by parents who understood the importance of acknowledging their emotions and supporting their soul connection so they were living lives they loved right from the start.
Those parents who raised them are you – the parent reading this. You can be the cause of that reality. In fact you are the only person who can be. The future is literally in your hands.
Yes that sounds like a good idea, but Is it hard? How do i support my child’s soul connection? What are the practical aspects? you might be thinking.
It’s not hard – in fact it mainly involves being present and non-judgemental. Some people call it empathy. I call it Sensing Children. I’ve written a whole book about it because i think its so important. It comes naturally to me and I havealways known how to do it, but recently I’ve realised that I can describe how to do it step by step. Part of it is you getting more in touch with your own experience and the other aspect is an alert and aware way to be with your child. Being with, doing nothing. Whats important first and foremost is that are sensing and feeling yourself – because unless you can direclty experience yourself in a calm state where you observe whats going on inside you with spacious awareness, its impossible to accept another. So step 1 is being able to centre, ground and feel yourself. Modern life is very fast and chaotic so it can take some getting used to – but with ten minutes of practice a day you will get the hang of it. Step 2 is then almost automatic because this opens up a very spacious awareness that doesn’t judge. I describe it as observation without labelling – you look, but you don’t name things, you just feel and observe them. Just as facts, not as value-laden judgements. Even words like anger or shopping carry memmories and emotions for most people. Its possible to notice anger without labelling it anger, just by feeling and recognising the energy. You can notice facial expressions, physical sensations, unspoken words, thoughts, desires – its all there, and this is being with or non-judgement. Another word for it is love – and i experience it like an active love that we can choose to give.
Being with or not judging is a form of giving. You give space, give attention, give acceptance. And the person receiving feels acceptance, attention, space to be as they are and love. For these things are love. And they can only be given if you can first give them to yourself. What has all of this got to do with children’s souls? When you can be with yourself and children without judgement they stay connected with their souls, and their sense of joy and in being themselves increases. They have no reason to judge or disown parts of themselves, and they stay whole and able to express their soul’s creative impulses.
I have to say a few more words about the power of being with things as they actually are. People want things to be different which is why they come to see me. But what i do is i show them how they actually are, which is what they haven’t been seeing, and why there is a problem in the first place. Its quite humorous really that all i can actually give them is an experience of how they are, and this transforms them. But isn’t this a bigger lesson for life? That when we can really sink into how things are right now they open and move? It’s the resistance and reluctance to experience this very moment that causes all the pain. Especially when parents cant cope with how their children are. With parents it their acceptance of their own state and their feelings about the child that open all the doors for them to be with the child. There is nothing wrong with any of the feelings. Being a parent is an extremely tough and challenging job. In the moment that parents can accepet how they are it also suddenly becomes clear to them what to do or say with their child. It arises as a natural response once they become present and connect with themselves. Isnt that simple and elegant?
For more inspiration, simple practical suggestions and resources for parents please go to www.facebook.com and look up mira watson – author.
My book for parents called Sensing Children has just been submitted for publishing.
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Thank you for reading.
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All rights reserved, Mira Watson 25th May 2014
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